Winter Blues vs. Seasonal Depression: Key Differences and How to Cope Effectively

By Melody Wright, LMFT

The air is crisp, the leaves are long gone, and the days seem to end before they’ve even begun. 

You’ve swapped sunny afternoons for gray skies and cozy blankets, but somewhere in this seasonal shift, you start to feel... different. 

Less motivated, more irritable. 

Maybe you’re staying in bed longer or dodging social plans that once lit you up.

If this feels familiar, you might be wondering, What’s happening to me? 

Let’s see if I can help answer that looming question, and most importantly, let’s talk about what you can do to feel better.

Can The Season Really Shift My Mood?

First, you’re not imagining it. 

The shorter days and reduced sunlight in the fall and winter months can have a real impact on your body and mind. 

Did you know that sunlight helps regulate your internal clock, mood, and even energy levels?

When there’s less of it, combined with colder weather keeping you indoors, it can leave you feeling a little “off”.

This shift can look different for everyone. 

For some, it’s a mild case of the “winter blues,” where you feel a little sluggish but can still power through. 

For others, it develops into Seasonal Affective Disorder, which is more commonly known as Seasonal Depression. 

Surprisingly, this is actually a form of depression that can significantly impact your life.

What is the Difference Between Winter Blues & Seasonal Depression (SAD)?

The winter blues are usually tied to something specific like holiday stress, financial burdens or feeling homesick. 

It’s an adjustment, but not one that should feel overwhelming. 

You might be groaning about the weather or fantasizing about summer, but you’re still able to function and get through your day. 

So what are the signs you should look out for? 

Winter Blues are common and tend to show up as:

1. Feeling a bit more tired or irritable than usual.

2. Preferring cozy nights at home over big social outings.

3. Struggling to stay as productive or motivated.

4. Possible changes in sleep patterns

It's completely normal to experience some shifts with a change in the seasons. These feelings should only last for a short time and can be easily managed with self-care and a dash of compassion. 

Seasonal Depression or Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), on the other hand, can be more serious. 

It’s not just feeling “off”, it’s an actual clinically recognized condition. 

According to the DSM-5 (the manual therapists use to diagnose mental health conditions), SAD is a form of depression with a seasonal pattern. 

If you’re struggling with Seasonal Affective Disorder you might experience…

1. Persistent sadness or low mood that doesn’t go away.

2. Loss of interest in things you normally love.

3. Sleeping too much (or struggling to sleep at all).

4. Changes in appetite (hello, carb cravings) or even significant weight loss.

5. Fatigue or low energy that feels impossible to shake.

6. Difficulty concentrating.

7. Feelings of hopelessness or even thoughts of self-harm.

So what is the key difference?

With Seasonal Affective Disorder, these symptoms interfere with your daily life including your work, relationships, and possibly, the ability to take care of yourself. 

On the other hand, the Winter Blues is short-term and you can function normally throughout your day. 

How Do You Know When It’s Time to Get Help?

You might be wondering: Where’s the line between “just a tough season” and something I need help with? 

I’m glad you asked. 

Here are a few signs it’s time to reach out to a licensed professional:

1. Your mood feels heavy or hopeless for more than 2 weeks.

2. You’re withdrawing from people or activities that usually bring you joy.

3. You’re struggling to function. Whether that’s keeping up at work, maintaining routines, or connecting with loved ones.

4. You feel stuck, like no matter what you do, you can’t pull yourself out of it.

If this sounds like you, know this: you don’t have to go through it alone. 

Meeting with a therapist can help you understand what’s happening and guide you toward relief.

What Are Some Coping Strategies for Winter Blues and Seasonal Affective Disorder?

Whether you’re navigating a seasonal slump or managing S.A.D., there are steps you can take to feel better. Here are some tips to help you through:

1. Chase the Light

Did you know that daylight is one of the most powerful tools to combat low mood during the colder months? 

Try to spend time outdoors during the brightest part of the day, even if it’s cloudy. 

Something as simple as a short walk can make a difference. You can even bundle up with your favorite warm beverage to make your walk cozy if it’s chilly outside.  

At home, keep your blinds open and sit near windows whenever possible to soak in natural light. 

Of course, if sunlight feels elusive, consider using a light therapy box. These lights mimic natural sunlight and have been shown to help regulate mood and energy levels.

2. Keep Moving

I know this can be a challenging one when you’re feeling down, and that’s okay. 

Exercise isn’t just good for your body; it’s a powerful way to boost your mood and energy. 

Whether it’s yoga or a full workout, movement releases endorphins, which can help lift your spirits. 

Remember you don’t have to go all out, even gentle activity can make a noticeable difference. 

Plus, regular movement can help improve sleep quality, which often takes a hit during this time of year.

3. Stay Social

When the urge to hibernate sets in, it can be easy to retreat from friends and family, but staying connected can be a vital lifeline for you during this time. 

Human connection helps counteract feelings of loneliness and keeps you engaged with the world around you, which can be a huge mood booster.

Try reaching out to loved ones, even if it’s for a casual chat or a coffee date. 

4. Stick to a Routine

The disruption of routines, whether it’s irregular sleep patterns or inconsistent meals, can exacerbate mood swings. 

Try to establish a steady daily rhythm that includes regular wake-up and bedtime hours, balanced meals, and time for self-care. 

This structure can provide stability and a sense of normalcy, even when everything outside feels unpredictable.

5. Nourish Your Body and Mind

Did you know that what you eat can directly influence how you feel? It’s always beneficial to aim for balanced meals to help sustain your energy throughout the day. 

Listen to your body and eat foods that make you feel good physically and not weighed down or sluggish. 

It’s also important to support your mental well-being.

Consider activities that help you decompress, like journaling, meditation, or simply setting aside time to read or enjoy a favorite hobby.

6. Seek Professional Support

Sometimes, coping strategies aren’t enough on their own, and that’s okay. 

If your symptoms feel overwhelming or persist despite your efforts, reaching out to a mental health professional can provide the support you need. 

Therapy can equip you with tools to manage symptoms, and in some cases, medication may be recommended to address the more severe effects of Seasonal Affective Disorder.

Final Thoughts

If the darker months are weighing on you, know that it’s not a reflection of your strength or resilience. 

Seasonal changes affect close to 380 million people every year, and there’s no shame in feeling the effects. 

What’s important is recognizing how you feel and taking steps, big or small, to prioritize your mental health.

This winter, be kind to yourself. Rest when you need to, connect when you’re able, and remember: brighter days, both literally and figuratively, are ahead. ☀️

This Weeks Affirmations

1. It’s okay to ask for help when I need it; support is a strength, not a weakness.

2. I am not defined by the challenges I face during this season.

3. My worth is not tied to my productivity or energy level.

4. I choose to focus on what I can control, one moment at a time.

5. I am allowed to feel what I feel without judgment.

Additional Resources 

**If you’re interested in learning more about navigating depression check out these books below:

1. The Upward Spiral: Using Neuroscience to Reverse the Course of Depression, One Small Change at a Time by Alex Korb

2. Reasons to Stay Alive by Matt Haig

3. The Depression Cure: The 6-Step Program to Beat Depression without Drugs by Stephen S. Ilardi

4. Lost Connections: Uncovering the Real Causes of Depression – and the Unexpected Solutions by Johann Hari

5. The Feeling Good Handbook by David D. Burns

6. The Year of Magical Thinking by Joan Didion

7. Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor E. Frankl

8. It's Okay That You're Not Okay: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand by Megan Devin

9. The Happiness Trap: How to Stop Struggling and Start Living by Russ Harris

10. The Art of Letting Go by Miles Niska

**Some product links are affiliate links, which means we'll receive a commission if you purchase through our link, at no extra cost to you. Please read the full disclosure here.

Unmasking Seasonal Depression: Are You At Risk?

by Melody Wright, LMFT

As the seasons change, some of us might find our spirits taking a dip along with the temperature. For many, this shift ushers in the excitement of holidays, warm drinks, and snug evenings by the fire. But for some, this seasonal transformation brings with it a subtle yet profound change in mood – the onset of Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD). Otherwise known as Seasonal Depression. 

Have you ever wondered why the season's magic doesn't quite reach everyone? Through the advocacy for mental health awareness, the term seasonal depression is becoming more prevalent. But what is seasonal depression? Why does it happen? Who does it affect? 

In this blog, we will dive into what seasonal depression is, who it affects, and ways to support yourself if you find yourself struggling.

Understanding Seasonal Depression 

Seasonal depression typically follows a pattern, with symptoms emerging and receding at the same time each year. The most common form of seasonal depression occurs during the fall and winter months when sunlight is in shorter supply. The primary culprit behind seasonal depression is believed to be reduced exposure to natural sunlight. Did you know sunlight plays a crucial role in regulating our circadian rhythm or internal body clock, as well as influencing the production of serotonin, which is a “feel good” hormone released by the brain? The winter months, with their shorter days and diminished sunlight, can disrupt this delicate balance, leading to a cascade of physiological and psychological effects.

So are there people who are more susceptible to Seasonal Depression? The answer is yes. Let's talk about it…

1. Location: If you live farther from the equator, where daylight duration varies more significantly between seasons, the more at risk you are to encounter season depression. 

2. Age and Gender: Seasonal depression can affect people of all ages, but it is more common in younger adults. Women, also, are diagnosed with seasonal depression more frequently than men.

3. Family History: If one of your family members has been diagnosed with depression or other mood disorders it may increase your susceptibility to seasonal depression.

4. Pre-existing Mental Health Conditions: If you have a history of other mental health conditions you may find your symptoms exacerbated during specific seasons like fall and winter.

10 Tips for Seasonal Depression Self-Support

When you are struggling with any type of depression, it can feel like an uphill battle. Implementing self care practices are essential to coping, however, finding what works for you can be a challenge in itself. We want to help you alleviate the decision fatigue with these 10 tips. 

1. Light Therapy:

   Light therapy, also known as phototherapy, involves exposure to a bright light that mimics natural sunlight. It can help regulate circadian rhythms and boost mood. Spending 20-30 minutes in front of a light box each morning can be an effective way to combat seasonal depression. You can find light boxes sold on Amazon.

2. Regular Exercise:

   Engaging in regular physical activity has been shown to alleviate symptoms of depression. Exercise releases endorphins, the body's natural mood lifters, and helps improve overall well-being. Even a walk outdoors can make a significant difference.

3. Maximize Natural Light Exposure:

   Make a conscious effort to spend time outdoors during daylight hours. Open curtains and blinds to let natural light into your home or workspace. If you work at home try position yourself or work area near windows to maximize exposure to natural light.

4. Social Connection:

   Stay connected with friends and family. Seasonal depression can lead to social withdrawal, so make an effort to maintain social connections. Whether it's a phone call, video chat, or coffee with a friend, social support is vital for emotional well-being.

5. Mindfulness and Meditation:

   Practices such as mindfulness meditation, and deep breathing exercises can help reduce stress and improve mood. These techniques can be incorporated into daily routines to promote relaxation.

   If you’re interested in learning more about this, you can download our free ebook, The Mind-Body ToolKit.

6. Establish a Consistent Sleep Routine:

   Maintain a regular sleep schedule by going to bed and waking up at the same time each day. Quality sleep is essential for mental health, and a consistent sleep routine can positively impact mood.

7. Implement a Daily Routine:

   Establishing a routine can provide structure and predictability which can counteract the internal chaos we might feel when in a depressive state. This tip is particularly crucial for those grappling with seasonal depression, as the changing seasons can disrupt the body's internal clock.

8. Set Realistic Goals:

   Break down tasks into smaller, more manageable goals. Setting realistic and achievable objectives can provide a sense of accomplishment and boost self-esteem, counteracting feelings of helplessness.

9. Express Yourself Creatively:

   Engage in activities that allow for self-expression and creativity, whether it's writing, drawing, painting, or playing a musical instrument. Creative outlets can serve as a therapeutic way to process emotions.

10. Get Professional Support:

    If seasonal depression is significantly impacting your daily life, consider seeking professional help. Having a therapist can provide guidance, support, and therapeutic interventions tailored to your specific needs. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) and other evidence-based treatments can be effective in managing seasonal depression.

Final Thoughts

Seasonal depression is a complex interplay of biological, environmental, and psychological factors that can significantly impact your quality of life. Recognizing the signs and understanding who is at risk is the first step toward to managing your depression in a healthy way. By incorporating coping strategies, those affected by seasonal depression can navigate the changing seasons with resilience and improved mental well-being. If you are struggling with seasonal depression, seeking professional guidance can be a step forward to healing. Our therapists here at Life By Design Therapy can be a trusted guide, offering support tailored to your unique journey. Their empathetic understanding provides a safe space to unravel the complexities of seasonal blues, granting you the tools and insights needed to navigate the storm. If you would like to take that step CLICK HERE to schedule your free phone consultation. 

ADDITIONAL RESOURCES 

**If you’re interested in expanding your knowledge on depression and how to support those that are depressed, check out these books below:

1. The Upward Spiral: Using Neuroscience to Reverse the Course of Depression, One Small Change at a Time by Alex Korb

2. Reasons to Stay Alive by Matt Haig

3. The Depression Cure: The 6-Step Program to Beat Depression without Drugs by Stephen S. Ilardi

4. Lost Connections: Uncovering the Real Causes of Depression – and the Unexpected Solutions by Johann Hari

5. The Feeling Good Handbook by David D. Burns

6. The Year of Magical Thinking by Joan Didion

7. Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor E. Frankl

8. It's Okay That You're Not Okay: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand by Megan Devine

**Some product links are affiliate links, which means we'll receive a commission if you purchase through our link, at no extra cost to you. Please read full disclosure here.

Loving Through Depression: Practical Tips for Supporting Your Partner

By Melody Wright, LMFT

Depression can be a debilitating condition that affects not only the person who is struggling with it but also their loved ones. It can be especially challenging for couples, as depression can put a strain on the relationship and make it difficult to maintain intimacy and communication. As a partner, it can be tough to see someone you care about struggling with depression, and it's understandable to feel helpless and unsure of what to do to help. However, it's essential to remember that your support can make a significant difference in your partner's journey toward recovery. If your partner is struggling with depression, there are several things you can do to support them and strengthen your relationship. In this blog, we'll discuss some practical tips and compassionate approaches that can help you support your partner through their depression.

How To Support Your Partner Through Their Depression

1. Be There For Them: This seems simple but one of the most important things you can do for your partner is simply to be there for them. Listen to their concerns and offer them emotional support when they need it. This will let them know that you care about them and have their best interest.

2. Encourage Them to Seek Professional Help: Because depression is a mental health condition, it is important for your partner to seek professional help. Encourage them to talk to a mental health professional about their symptoms.

3. Help With Daily Tasks: Depression can be debilitating for many people, which can make it difficult for your partner to do everyday tasks like making a meal, doing the laundry, or even running to the grocery store. Helping perform these basic tasks can show your partner that you are a safe support system for them.

Supporting Yourself

The care of your loved one is probably at the forefront of your mind, however, we want to remind you that, as the support person, you need to take care of yourself as well. If you continually give of yourself without taking care of your own needs, you run the risk of becoming burnout. Some ways you can support yourself are:

1. Practice Self-Care: It can be difficult to support a partner who is struggling with depression, and it is important to take care of yourself. Make time for yourself by doing activities you enjoy such as exercise, meditation, or spending time with friends.

2. Be Patient: Depression is a chronic condition for some people, and it may take time for your partner to feel better. Be patient and supportive, and avoid putting pressure on them to "snap out of it" or "get over it."

3. Educate Yourself: Knowing the signs and symptoms of depression can help you have a better understanding of what your partner may be going through. It can be supportive, as well, to know the treatment options for when your partner is ready to seek additional support. 

4. Seek Support For Yourself: Meeting with a qualified clinician can provide you with a secure and unbiased space for coping with your own emotions around your partner's depression. They can also give you tools to utilize in your day-to-day life to support your partner and possibly take a little weight off of your shoulders.

Supporting a partner who is struggling with depression can be a difficult and emotionally exhausting experience, but it is also an opportunity to show compassion and love to your partner which can bring strength to your relationship in the long run. By giving them your care and attention you can make a significant difference in their recovery journey. Remember to also take care of yourself and seek support when needed. Above all, know that you and your partner are not alone in this journey and that with patience, understanding, and persistence, you can work together to overcome the challenges of depression and build a stronger, more resilient relationship.

If you are in need of support, please contact one of our clinicians here at Life By Design Therapy. We offer online and in-person services for those who live in California. We also have a website full of resources for you and your partner to navigate this journey. 

Coping With Burnout - What Can You Do When Life Doesn’t Stop?

By Melody Wright, LMFT

Have you ever been at a point in your life where you feel like you are empty, lacking motivation, and mentally exhausted? More than likely you are experiencing burnout. Unfortunately, life keeps pushing forward, and it becomes difficult to pour from an empty cup. This can become very overwhelming for many. You might desire a break to be filled again, but if you lack the opportunity for that break, what can you do to fill your cup again? In this blog, we will provide you with the tools to refresh even when you don’t have the opportunity to truly slow down. 

What is Burnout? 

Burnout is a feeling where your mental and emotional state is depleted and it becomes exhausting to even perform basic day-to-day tasks. The feeling of burnout can be caused by many things such as your job, home life, financial hardships, personal problems, or a combination of these. It can have a significant impact on your daily life, leading to feelings of frustration, irritability, and disengagement from work or personal relationships. It's incredibly common to feel overwhelmed and depleted especially when you’re constantly putting others before yourself.

What Can You Do To Support Yourself? 

If you're experiencing burnout, you must recognize the symptoms and take steps to prevent it from negatively impacting your daily life. Here are some practical strategies to help you cope with burnout:

1. Take Time For Yourself: It's essential to prioritize self-care and take time for yourself. This can include engaging in activities that you enjoy, such as reading, taking a bath, or going for a walk. Make sure to set aside time each day for self-care, even if it's just 10 minutes.

2. Practice Mindfulness: Mindfulness is the practice of being present in the moment and focusing on your thoughts, feelings, and sensations throughout your body. Practicing mindfulness can help you reduce stress, improve your mood, and increase your overall well-being. There are many mindfulness practices, including meditation, deep breathing, and yoga.

3. Set Boundaries: This is a BIG one! It’s okay to say “no”. It's important to set boundaries in your personal and professional life to prevent burnout. This can include saying no to extra work or social engagements you don't have the time or energy for or setting limits on how much time you spend on certain activities.

4. Get Enough Sleep: Getting enough sleep is important for optimal health in general, but prioritizing sleep can help your brain reset allowing clarity for the following day. You can do this by establishing a regular sleep routine, avoiding caffeine before bedtime, and creating a relaxing sleep environment.

5. Engage In Physical Activity: Regular physical activity can help reduce stress, and improve your mood. Even just a 10-minute walk can have significant benefits.

6. Seek Support: If you're feeling burnt out, it's important to seek support from friends, family, and even a therapist. Talking about your feelings with someone you trust can help you feel less isolated and more supported.

We understand that burnout can have a significant impact on your daily life, but there are practical strategies that you can use to cope with it. By prioritizing yourself you can prevent burnout from negatively impacting your well-being. If you are needing support with moving forward out of your burnout state, consider reaching out to one of our therapists here at Life By Design Therapy. In conclusion, we want you to know that you are not alone and we are here to be a resource and support in your journey. We also have additional resources throughout our website such as links to mediation videos, a free downloadable eBook, and blogs that target more specific areas you might need support with. 

Depression: Symptoms, Treatment and Changes in the Brain

By Melody Wright, LMFT

Depression, What Is It?

Depression is a serious (but common) medical illness that affects how someone feels, thinks, and acts. In general, depression causes feelings of sadness and an overall loss of interest in activities that you may have previously enjoyed. Depression impacts each person differently and may even look different at various stages of your life.  The length of time someone may experience depression can also vary from person to person; Some people may be able to overcome their depression within a matter of months while others may take longer. No matter what someone’s journey with depression may look like, it is important to be able to recognize the symptoms and the effects that it has on the body. Some of the symptoms related to depression vary from mild to severe, and can include the following:

• Changes in appetite

• Loss of energy

• Feeling fatigued

• Difficulty concentrating

• Feeling sad

• Trouble sleeping or too much sleep

• Thoughts of worthlessness, guilt, or suicidality

What Does Depression Do to the Brain?

While many associate only emotional or mental symptoms with depression, research states that it may also impact our brain. There is still much to be learned about the specific areas of the brain that are affected by depression, and how much they are affected. However, there is growing evidence that different parts of the brain may shrink, change in structure, and/or become inflamed in people with depression. These changes in the brain can lead to problems with memory, learning, and overall mood. Scientists are not yet sure if these changes have the potential to be permanent, but there is hope that treatment may help prevent or ease some of the changes that happen to the brain.

What Treatment Exists for Depression?

Treatment for depression can consist of a wide variety of approaches that may have more eastern or western influences when it comes to holistic and full-body healing. The more mainstream, and therefore more common approaches primarily consists of two options, therapy and medication. Depending on what works best to address an individual’s symptoms, therapy and medication can be used individually or in combination as part of their treatment plan. Therapeutic approaches for depression may include:

• Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) 

• Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)

• Holistic and Somatic (body-based) Psychotherapy

Medications for depression, also known as antidepressants, primarily work by increasing chemical levels in the brain called neurotransmitters. These neurotransmitters are linked to mood and emotions. Antidepressants address different symptoms, and usually fall within the following categories:

• SSRI’s: Addresses symptoms of depression and anxiety

• Antidepressants: Addresses symptoms of depression and may help with other chronic conditions

• Anxiolytic: Addresses anxiety, tension, and may promote sleep

• Antipsychotic: Addresses symptoms of certain psychiatric conditions

When therapy and/or medication are used as treatment to address someone’s depression, research shows that it can reduce inflammation in the brain that was originally caused by depression.  Engaging in therapeutic interventions may also help form new synaptic connections in the brain that were affected by depression. This can help an individual experience a drastic improvement in their overall mood and energy levels. No matter what your treatment plan looks like, addressing your symptoms with therapy or medication can help begin to minimize the toll that depression can take on the body.

I’m Not Sure How to Get Started…Where Can I Get Help?

In order to properly address depression, it is important that you speak to your doctor, therapist, and/or psychiatrist to find the treatment approach, or approaches, that work best for you. For individuals who would like to explore taking medication, it’s important to learn the side-effects that may be associated with each medication, and understand that it may take time to find the right medication for their individual needs. If you or a loved one is currently experiencing symptoms of depression, our therapists at Life by Design would be happy to connect with you and help guide the journey to healing and improved Mental Health. Click here for more information. 

“I’m worried about getting older, but what can I do?” Coping With Anxiety About Aging

By Melody Wright, LMFT

As we begin to enter new ages and phases in our life, it can sometimes be difficult to accept that we are getting older. Whether it’s a fear of physically looking older, a concern about not being where you want to be in life, or feeling anxious about what the future holds, the concepts related to getting older sometimes have a negative connotation. If you’re feeling anxious or concerned about aging, below are some things to consider that may help you cope with your concerns and anxiety. 

We’re All Getting Older

You are not the first person to age, and you will not be the last. Sometimes, getting older creates feelings of loneliness or feeling as though we haven’t achieved what we wanted to at this age. Normalizing that others around us are also getting older, and surrounding yourself with a solid support network of friends and loved ones can help reduce your feelings of loneliness or inadequacy. It’s also important to note that age does not dictate where we need to be in life, and that success can mean different things and look different ways to different people. 

Age Does Not Have To Stop Us

Sometimes, the fear associated with getting older is related to feeling worried that we won’t be able to do the things we used to be able to do. Getting older does not automatically equate to a decline in your health, or an inability to try new things. If any of these thoughts concern you, consider the following – Are there any habits you can pick up today that can help create a healthier lifestyle for you? Picking up a new habit that positively impacts your health can help increase your optimism about your future. This is also a gentle reminder that getting older does not make you incapable of trying new things, or prevent you from thriving in a new environment.

Choosing To “Age Well”

As we age, there are things that will be outside of our control. While we cannot control some of the things related to the aging process, we CAN control how we choose to spend our time, who we choose to spend it with, and the activities we choose to spend our time on. One of the benefits of getting older is having the wisdom and agency to choose activities, people, and spaces that make you feel safe and create joy. Making the choice to spend your time doing things you love with people you care about can help you have a positive outlook on aging. 

While we hope that the tips above helped address some of your anxieties around aging, we acknowledge that it may not be sufficient. This is especially true if you feel that your concerns regarding aging are interfering with your daily life. If you find yourself needing support or additional coping strategies, we encourage you to book a phone consultation today at Life by Design. Life by Design offers therapeutic services with qualified professionals that can give you the tools you need to help address your current concerns.  

Dealing With Depression: Common Triggers and How to Address Them

By Melody Wright, LMFT

Approximately 10% of Americans live with depression, and encountering situations that trigger their depression can be very common. Depression can often be triggered by a stressful or negative life event. Learning about common triggers can help individuals who experience depression avoid, or mitigate for, a depressive episode.

Below are 5 common depression triggers and skills to help address them:

1. Overwhelming/Stressful Tasks: Coming home to a messy apartment or being scheduled to work overtime for the 3rd day in a row can create high levels of stress and leave you feeling overwhelmed. Creating boundaries around what you can and cannot do can help address these types of stressful situations before they become a depressive episode. Saying “no” to additional overtime opportunities, or deciding to clean your apartment one room at a time are both examples of boundaries you can set with others and with yourself to begin tackling these stressful scenarios. 

2. Lack of Sleep: Research shows that a lack of sleep can directly affect an individual’s depression. Having a consistent sleep schedule, including a set bedtime and wake time can help improve your chances at getting enough sleep. Implementing a consistent routine before bedtime can also help teach your body when it is time to go to bed. This can include a warm bath at the same time every evening, or turning on a lavender-scented diffuser before getting into bed. 

3. Financial Hardship: Financial hardships, especially when unexpected, can create high levels of stress for any individual. A few skills to address finances include creating a monthly budget and reviewing it routinely, looking into community resources that provide payment assistance with certain household bills or necessities, and engaging in low-cost or free activities so that finances do not limit you from making plans with friends or loved ones. 

4. Significant Life Events: Life changes that are unexpected and out of your control can leave you feeling lost or unsure of how to process these changes. In times like these, it is important to connect with friends or loved ones not only to receive love and support, but also to have a listening ear from individuals that you trust. A divorce, a loss of a loved one, or a change in careers require major life decisions. Surrounding yourself with individuals you trust can provide you with the best opportunity to make rational decisions in the midst of stressful times. 

5. Drug/Alcohol Use: The use of alcohol or drugs can trigger or make depressive episodes worse. If you have a medical provider that you trust, we encourage you to schedule an appointment. Talking to a therapist or mental health professional can also be a great option to address alcohol or drug use. 

Not all of the triggers listed above may apply to you, so we encourage you to learn more about your common triggers and possible skills to help address them. If you find yourself needing support with figuring out what your triggers are, or would like to learn more strategies to cope with them, we encourage you to book a phone consultation today at Life by Design. Life by Design offers therapeutic services with qualified professionals that can give you the tools you need to help address your triggers and depression. Book a phone consultation today for more information and let’s get you connected to additional support.

Winter Survival Tips: How to Prepare for Seasonal Affective Disorder

by Melody Wright, LMFT

In many places, the winter months bring gloomier weather and less daylight hours compared to the weather and sunlight we get during the spring and summer months. These seasonal changes can lead to a type of depression called “Seasonal Affective Disorder.” Seasonal Affective Disorder, or SAD, usually presents itself during the Fall and continues into the Winter months. SAD symptoms include having low energy, experiencing problems with sleep, having changes in your appetite, and feeling depressed for most of the day almost every day.

If you’ve experienced Seasonal Affective Disorder in the past, or are currently experiencing SAD-related symptoms, here are some tips to help you prepare for this winter:

• Plan some mood boosting activities.

  Whether you want to start a new yoga class or are long overdue for a group outing with friends, planning some activities for the Winter season can help you get ahead of the SAD symptoms. Focus on activities that you are comfortable with and usually put you in a good mood -- this will help avoid stressors that come with planning something you have not done before or aren’t sure about doing. 
  

• Try aromatherapy.

  Aromatherapy uses aromatic materials, like essential oils, to help improve your physical and emotional health. Scents like vanilla, jasmine, or sandalwood can help improve your mood and are available as an essential oil or candle. If you notice that certain scents help improve your mood, consider purchasing a diffuser or scented candle and setting it up in a space that you currently use to relax or unwind like a reading corner. 
  

• Consider using a light box.

  Some people benefit from using a light therapy box that mimics outdoor light. The light has an effect on the brain chemicals that are linked to mood and sleep, which can have a positive impact on SAD symptoms. 
  

• Catch all the sunshine that you can.

  While the winter months can limit the amount of sunshine that we usually get, making the most out of the hours when there is sunlight can help improve your mood and overall SAD symptoms. If you’re currently working from home, consider setting up your workspace near a window or right outside your balcony to catch some rays. Taking early morning walks can also help you get some sunlight as well as endorphins from the exercise. The increased sunlight and the endorphins should help improve your mood. 
  

• Take some time off.

  If you’re able to take some time off of work during the winter due to the holidays, this could be a great opportunity to focus on your self-care. If it’s possible and within your budget, it may also be a great time to travel to a place that gets more sunshine or take this opportunity to visit family or friends. Whether you’re able to take time off to focus on your self-care or travel to visit loved ones, both activities are great opportunities to help you recharge. 
  

• Talk to a doctor or therapist.

  Depending on the severity or consistency of your symptoms, it may be time to see your doctor or schedule an appointment with a therapist. A doctor or therapist is able to tailor solutions that are based on your individual health and lifestyle if you are experiencing severe Seasonal Affective Disorder symptoms. 

If you’ve experienced Seasonal Affective Disorder in the past, or have recently begun experiencing SAD-related symptoms, there are things you can do to help prepare for the upcoming winter season. Implementing mood boosting activities or routines can help enjoy your winter days to the fullest. 

Therapy can be a great part of your routine care and we encourage that you prioritize speaking with a professional if you notice that you have felt unmotivated or hopeless for a long period of time. Life by Design Therapy offers therapy and excellent workshops facilitated by qualified professionals to help you get through challenging times. Book a phone consultation today for more information and to help get you connected to additional support. 

It’s Okay Not to Be Okay; How to Overcome When You’re Feeling Overwhelmed

by Melody Wright, LMFT

2021 has presented us with many challenges at an individual, national, and global level. These challenges have created higher levels of stress in us and those around us. Many people have reported feeling high levels of stress due to being affected by Covid, being impacted by the racial and political tension within our country, and being exposed to higher rates of crime. These stressors may have also led to feelings of fear, frustration, anger, and overall feeling inundated by what is going on in the world around us. No matter what challenges or stressors you’ve faced this last year, we want to reassure you that it is okay not to be okay. 

As you look back at the events that took place over this last year, it is important to notice how these events have impacted your physical, emotional, and mental health. When we give ourselves permission to acknowledge that we are not okay or that something does not feel right, we can start the journey of healing by identifying the parts in us that need some extra care and attention. You may also find comfort in knowing that there are many others at this moment that are feeling the same way you are. It may also help you to know that there are strategies to help you cope when you are feeling overstressed or overwhelmed. 

At this point in time, you may be feeling like things are not going the way you hoped they would or that they are not getting better as fast as you’d hoped. That’s okay.

While it may not feel like things are going well for you right now, there are strategies you can implement today to help you feel a little less overwhelmed and more hopeful about current events: 

• Eat, sleep, repeat. This sounds easy in theory, but many people sacrifice sleep and regular meals when they feel stressed or overwhelmed. Ironically, not eating or sleeping well will contribute to higher stress levels or irritability. Getting enough sleep and eating well will help you with your focus and overall mood. 

• Pick-up or restart your old hobbies. It is important to make time for activities that create moments of fun and relaxation. If it’s been a while since your last nature hike, or you have been meaning to read a new book, adding just a few minutes to your day for a hobby can help give you some much needed me-time for things that make you happy. 

• Create a to-do list. If you’re feeling overwhelmed with tasks and work well with visual reminders, putting together a to-do list may help you organize your thoughts. You may find yourself feeling a bit more at ease once you can visualize all the things that need to be done. The physical act of getting the thoughts out of your mind and onto paper may also provide a sense of relief. Bonus points to you if you list items in order of priority so you can clearly identify what needs to get done first. 

• Tidy up. The last thing you want to do sometimes is add another item to your to-do list. With that said, cleaning can help give you a break from your overwhelming thoughts AND help you declutter your physical space. The decluttering of your physical space can help you feel mentally decluttered as well. 

Whether you’re going through a difficult time in your life or are feeling emotionally exhausted due to this year’s events, know that you are among many who are experiencing and feeling the same things you are. You may not be okay right now, but you will be. Being able to feel okay again sometimes means tapping into your support system. Your support system can help give you an outside perspective or coping strategies based on your current life circumstances.

Remember that a therapist can be part of that much-needed support system. For more information, reach out to us on getting connected to a member of our team. 

Also, if you’re needing some additional support we have an online Grief and Loss Workshop this December. Click here to learn more.