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How to Deal Anxiety When the World Feels Too Much

By Melody Wright, LMFT

 
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I don’t know about you, but lately, it feels like the weight of the world is heavier than usual. 

When checking the news, there’s something new to process, another shift, another crisis, another reason to feel uncertain about what’s ahead. 

Maybe you feel it too. 

Even when you step away, the heaviness lingers, making it hard to fully relax, hard to focus, hard to feel at ease.

That underlying tension in your body, the restless thoughts that make it difficult to unwind. 

The constant push and pull between wanting to stay informed and needing a break. 

Or maybe you’ve found yourself withdrawing, not because you don’t care, but because it’s all starting to feel like too much.

If so, I want you to know that you’re not alone, and you’re not imagining it. 

The world feels overwhelming right now, and your feelings make sense. 

Anxiety is a natural response to uncertainty, and when there’s so much we can’t control, it’s easy to feel unsteady.

But while we may not be able to change everything happening around us, we can find ways to support ourselves through it. 

In this post, I want to offer you some reassurance, some understanding, and some practical ways to ease the weight you’re carrying.

Let’s take a deep breath and explore this together.

Why Anxiety Feels So Heavy Right Now

Anxiety thrives in uncertainty. 

When things feel unpredictable, our nervous systems work overtime, trying to make sense of what’s happening and how to stay safe. 

Right now, so much feels up in the air. 

There are political changes, global events, and the ripple effects they may have on our daily lives. 

It’s not just the big, obvious stressors, it’s the accumulation of everything, the constant hum of "what’s next?" in the background of our daily lives.

There are so many layers to this, and it’s no wonder it feels heavy. Let’s take a closer look at what’s adding to the weight.

1. There’s a lot we can’t control

Uncertainty can feel unsettling, especially when it comes to big issues like leadership changes, policies that affect our rights, or economic instability. 

When we don’t know what’s coming next, our brains stay on high alert, trying to prepare for every possible outcome.

2. Constant exposure to difficult news

It’s never been easier to stay connected to what’s happening in the world. 

With 24-hour news cycles and social media updates at our fingertips, we’re absorbing an overwhelming amount of information, often before we’ve had a chance to process the last thing we read. 

This keeps our nervous systems in a state of stress, even when we’re trying to go about our day.

3. Compassion Fatigue & Emotional Overload

Caring deeply about what’s happening in the world is a beautiful thing. 

But when we feel like we have to stay engaged all the time, it can start to feel exhausting. 

The expectation to constantly be aware, informed, and active can make it difficult to step back and care for ourselves without guilt.

4. A Sense of Powerlessness

When the challenges feel bigger than us, it’s easy to feel like nothing we do will make a difference. 

That feeling of helplessness can turn into anxiety, frustration, or even numbness, making it hard to know how to move forward.

If you’ve found yourself thinking, Why am I feeling this way? Or is it just me?, please know that you’re not alone. 

Your nervous system is responding exactly as it’s meant to when things feel uncertain. 

You are not overreacting. 

You are not “too sensitive.” 

Your body and mind are simply trying to navigate a world that feels unpredictable.

But while anxiety is a normal response, it doesn’t have to be your constant state.

There are ways to ease the tension, to find steadiness, and to take care of yourself without shutting down completely.

How to Support Yourself Through Anxiety

1. Start with Your Nervous System

Before trying to think your way out of anxiety, your body needs to feel safe. Small, simple practices can help. 

Grounding exercises: When anxiety takes over, it often pulls us into the future, worrying about what might happen, replaying worst-case scenarios, or feeling overwhelmed by uncertainty. 

Grounding exercises help bring you back to the present moment by reconnecting you to your body.

Example: Progressive Muscle Relaxation
Practice progressive muscle relaxation: choose a muscle group (such as your hands or legs) and tense those muscles for a few seconds. 

Hold the tension, paying attention to how it feels. 

Then, release the muscles and notice the contrast between the tension and the rest that follows. Feel how your body softens and relaxes as the stress melts away.

Repeat this process with other muscle groups, such as your shoulders, stomach, or feet, until you feel more grounded and relaxed.

The process helps create awareness of how physical tension feels, and by releasing it, you create a sense of calm and ease.

This practice can be especially helpful for people who hold stress in their bodies and need a tangible way to release that physical tension.

Breathwork: When we feel anxious, our breathing naturally becomes shallow and fast. This signals to the brain that something is wrong, reinforcing the stress response. 

Breathwork is a way to interrupt this cycle and bring us back to a state of rest. 

Example: The 4-7-8 Breathing Technique
This is a simple but effective way to calm your body:

  • Inhale deeply through your nose for 4 seconds.

  • Hold your breath for 7 seconds.

  • Exhale slowly through your mouth for 8 seconds.

Repeating this for just a few minutes can lower stress levels, reduce racing thoughts, and help you feel more in control. 

Also please know that if the full 4-7-8 count feels difficult, you can adjust the timing. What matters most is slowing down your breath and extending the exhale, which signals to the brain that it’s safe to unwind.

Movement: Anxiety doesn’t just live in the mind, it shows up in the body too. Tight shoulders, a clenched jaw, restlessness, and stomach discomfort can all be physical signs that stress is being stored. 

Movement helps release that pent-up energy and signals to your nervous system that it can shift out of fight-or-flight mode.

Example: Shaking Exercise for Stress Release
This may sound unusual, but shaking out your body, just like animals do after a stressful event, can be a simple way to discharge nervous energy.

  • Stand with your feet shoulder-width apart and let your arms hang loosely at your sides.

  • Start by gently shaking your hands, then your arms, letting the movement travel up through your shoulders.

  • Allow your whole body to join in, lightly bouncing on your toes, shaking out your legs, and even letting your head move.

  • Continue for 30 seconds to a minute, then take a deep breath and notice how your body feels.

This type of movement helps “reset” the nervous system, releasing excess tension and leaving you feeling calmer. 

If shaking doesn’t feel right, gentle stretching, a short walk, or even rolling your shoulders can have a similar effect.

 
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2. Set Gentle Boundaries with News & Social Media

Staying informed is important, especially when so much is happening in the world. 

But there’s a difference between staying informed and being constantly immersed in distressing news

The more we expose ourselves to a nonstop flow of upsetting headlines, the harder it becomes for our nervous system to regulate, leading to heightened anxiety, emotional exhaustion, and even a sense of hopelessness.

Setting boundaries with news and social media isn’t about ignoring reality, it’s about protecting your mental and emotional well-being so you can stay engaged without burning out.

Here are some practical ways to set these boundaries…

  1. Checking the news at set times instead of throughout the day: Instead of letting news updates flood your entire day, try scheduling specific times to check reliable sources. For example, you might choose to check in once in the morning and once in the evening, rather than refreshing your feed constantly.

  2. Unfollowing accounts that spike panic rather than provide thoughtful information: Ask yourself: Does this account or news source help me stay informed in a way that feels balanced, or does it send me into a spiral of fear and distress? If it’s the latter, it’s okay to mute or unfollow. You can still stay aware of important issues without consuming content that is designed to provoke panic.

  3. Giving yourself permission to take breaks without feeling guilty: It’s okay to log off. It’s okay to turn off notifications. It’s okay to take a full day (or more) away from the news cycle. The world will still be there when you return, and taking time to reset your nervous system will help you engage in a healthier, more sustainable way.

3. Focus on What You Can Control

Feeling completely powerless can be paralyzing. 

But when we take even small actions that align with our values, we remind ourselves that we do have influence over our own lives, our communities, and the way we show up in the world. 

This shift in perspective can ease anxiety and bring a sense of stability, even in uncertain times.

  • Identify small, meaningful actions you can take: You don’t have to change the world overnight, but small steps matter. Ask yourself: 

    • Can I support a cause I care about by donating, volunteering, or spreading awareness? 

    • Are there conversations I can have with friends or family to bring awareness to an issue?

    • Can I make choices in my daily life (where I shop, who I support, how I spend my time) that align with my values?

  • Redirect your energy toward what feels grounding and meaningful: If you find yourself stuck in an anxiety spiral about things beyond your control, try gently shifting your focus to something tangible:

    • Engaging in hobbies that bring a sense of accomplishment (gardening, cooking, writing, etc.)

    • Spending time with loved ones and nurturing personal connections.

    • Setting small, achievable goals that bring a sense of progress.

  • Create daily habits that support emotional stability: Routines can provide a sense of normalcy in chaotic times. Ask yourself:

    • What habits help me feel my best—mentally, physically, or emotionally?

    • Can I create a morning or evening routine that brings comfort and structure?

    • Are there small rituals (journaling, meditation, reading) that help me feel more in control of my own experience?

By focusing on what is within our reach, we shift from helplessness to empowerment, allowing us to show up in the world with more clarity and resilience. 

4. Make Room for Joy and Rest

Anxiety tells us that we have to be on high alert all the time and that if we relax, we might miss something important or fail to prepare for the worst. 

But here’s the truth, constantly being on edge doesn’t make the world any safer. 

It only drains our energy, making it harder to think clearly, take action, or find peace.

Joy, connection, and rest are not distractions. 

They are essential for resilience. 

By intentionally making space for joy and rest, you’re not ignoring your responsibilities, you’re replenishing your capacity to handle them. 

Here are a few simple ways to invite more ease and balance into your day:

  • Step outside and take a deep breath of fresh air: Even a few minutes in nature, whether it’s a park, your backyard, or simply standing outside, can have a calming effect on the nervous system.

  • Listen to music that soothes or uplifts you: Music has a direct impact on our mood. Create a playlist of songs that bring you comfort, peace, or energy, depending on what you need at the moment.

  • Spend time with people who make you feel safe and supported: Connection is a powerful antidote to anxiety. Whether it’s a quick call, a heartfelt conversation, or simply sitting in the presence of a loved one, human connection can bring a sense of grounding and warmth.

  • Engage in something creative, even if it’s just doodling for a few minutes: Creativity shifts the brain out of stress mode and into a state of flow. Whether it’s painting, writing, playing an instrument, or cooking a new recipe, engaging in creativity can bring a sense of calm and enjoyment.

Joy doesn’t have to be big or extravagant. 

Even small moments of peace can be enough to remind you that life still holds good things.

5. Reach Out for Support

You don’t have to navigate this alone. 

Sharing your struggles with others can help lighten the emotional burden and, sometimes, just knowing someone else understands can be enough to take the edge off the anxiety.

Here are some ways to seek support…

  • Talk to a trusted friend or family member: Sometimes, saying our worries out loud helps us process them more clearly. Find someone who listens without judgment and reminds you that you’re not alone.

  • Consider therapy or support groups: If anxiety feels overwhelming, therapy can be a valuable space to explore what’s coming up for you and develop tools to manage it. Support groups, whether online or in person, can also be a great way to connect with others experiencing similar struggles. Reach out today to take the next step toward support and healing.

  • Engage in online communities that feel supportive, not draining:
    The internet can be a double-edged sword. While some spaces increase anxiety, others can provide comfort, encouragement, and resources. Find communities that help you feel understood and empowered rather than overwhelmed.

Final Thoughts

The world is a lot to hold right now, and if you’re feeling anxious, overwhelmed, or emotionally exhausted, please know you are not alone. 

Your feelings make sense. 

You care deeply, and that’s a beautiful thing. 

But remember you don’t have to carry everything on your own.

It’s okay to step back when you need to.

It’s okay to take care of yourself.

It’s okay to find peace, even when the world feels chaotic.

You are doing the best you can, and that is enough.

If you’re looking for expert support, Life By Design Therapy™ is here for you. As a top-rated therapy center, we provide personalized, holistic care to help you navigate anxiety and reclaim a sense of peace. Book a free phone consultation today and take the first step toward lasting relief. CLICK HERE to get started!

This Weeks Affirmations

  1. I focus on what is within my control and release what is not.

  2. I am resilient, and I will get through this.

  3. My feelings are valid, and I am allowed to feel them without judgment.

  4. I can stay informed without sacrificing my peace.

  5. It’s okay to take a break; rest is not the same as giving up.

Additional Resources 

**If you’re interested in learning more about anxiety and navigating world issues check out these books below:

  1. It's Time to Talk (and Listen) by Anatasia S. Kim and Alicia del Prado

  2. The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D

  3. Everything is Figureoutable by Marie Forleo

  4. Radical Uncertainty: Decision-Making Beyond the Numbers by John Kay & Mervyn King

  5. The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment by Eckhart Tolle

  6. The Upside of Uncertainty: A Guide to Finding Possibility in the Unknown by Nathan Furr & Susannah Harmon Furr

  7. The Art of Uncertainty: How to Live in the Mystery of Life and Love It by Dennis Merritt Jones

  8. Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance by Angela Duckworth

  9. Uncertainty: Turning Fear and Doubt into Fuel for Brilliance by Jonathan Fields

  10. Rising Strong: How the Ability to Reset Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brené Brown

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Navigating Anxiety Together: A Guide for Supporting Your Partner

By Melody Wright, LMFT

 
 

In the complex dynamics of relationships, we might find ourselves stepping into roles that require not just love and companionship but also patience, understanding, and support. If your partner struggles with anxiety, it might feel like you both are navigating through rough seas, where every wave of worry and fear has the potential to disrupt the stability of your relationship.

Anxiety comes in various forms and it can cast a shadow over even the brightest moments you both share, leaving both partners feeling isolated and uncertain. 

However, even in relationships where anxiety is present, there lies an opportunity for deeper connection and growth. By learning how to support your partner with their anxiety effectively, you not only have the ability to strengthen the foundation of your relationship but also foster an environment of trust, empathy, and resilience. In this blog, we'll discuss ten ways to support your partner through their anxiety by focusing on understanding and kindness. 

Supporting Your Partner

Supporting an anxious partner requires patience, empathy, and a genuine desire to comfort and encourage them. It means understanding their anxiety deeply and being there to provide comfort when they're feeling distressed. Patience helps you navigate their emotions gently, while empathy allows you to connect with their inner feelings of fear and worry. Most importantly, it involves a strong commitment to stand by their side, offering reassurance through all the challenges they face.  So how can you do this?  

  1. Ground Yourself: To be present, listen, and have empathy for your partner you need to find ways to ground yourself before attempting.  For those who experience anxiety, it can creep up suddenly, so being prepared to regulate yourself is essential to supporting your partner through it.  You can support yourself with daily meditation, self-care practices, and deep breathing.

  2. Engage in Active Listening: It’s important to encourage your partner to express their feelings and concerns. However, as you listen it’s also important to show empathy and understanding by actively listening to what they have to say and holding a non-judgmental space for them. Here's a brief example of active listening in a relationship:

    Partner A: "I had a really tough day at work. My boss criticized my project in front of the whole team."

    Partner B: "That sounds really challenging. It must have been frustrating to receive criticism like that. How did you handle it?

    In this example, Partner B actively listens to Partner A's experience, acknowledges their feelings, and encourages further discussion by asking an open-ended question.

  3. Validate Their Feelings: As you engage in active listening let your partner know that it's okay to feel anxious and that their feelings are valid. Be aware to avoid dismissing or minimizing their emotions.

  4. Offer Reassurance: Provide verbal reassurance that you are there for them and that they are not alone in dealing with their anxiety. Remind them of their strengths and previous successes in managing anxiety.

  5. Educate Yourself About Anxiety: Learning about anxiety disorders, their symptoms, and their triggers will only give you a deeper understanding of what your partner is going through and can help you provide better support.

  6. Encourage Self-Care: For those who experience anxiety, their nervous systems can become dysregulated easily. Help your partner prioritize self-care activities such as exercise, proper nutrition, sufficient sleep, and relaxation techniques like deep breathing or meditation. This is important for nervous system regulation and reducing anxiety episodes.

  7. Be Patient and Understanding: Recognize that anxiety can be overwhelming and may affect your partner's behavior and mood. Be patient with them and try to remain calm during moments of heightened anxiety.

  8. Avoid Criticism: Do your best to refrain from criticizing or blaming your partner for their anxiety. Instead, focus on offering constructive feedback and support.

  9. Encourage Professional Help: You might suggest seeking help from a therapist or counselor who specializes in treating anxiety disorders. Your partner might feel supported if you offer to accompany them to their therapy sessions.

  10. Practice Mindfulness Together: Engage in activities that promote mindfulness, such as yoga or guided meditation. These practices can help both of you manage stress and anxiety more effectively and cultivate a deeper relationship with each other.

  11. Maintain Open Communication: Encourage open and honest communication in your relationship. Check in with your partner regularly to see how they're feeling and what support they may need. Let them know that they can always come to you for help and guidance.

Final Thoughts

We understand that relationships of all kinds are unique. Navigating the complexities of relationships can be challenging and as the other side of the relationship, you might find that you would like support as well. For those who might be experiencing breakdowns in communication, trust issues, or just need someone to bounce thoughts off of, consider speaking with a skilled clinician. Your wellbeing contributes to the wellbeing of your relationship and if you would like support, reach out to one of our therapists today. You can CLICK HERE to schedule a free phone consultation. 

 
 

Affirmations for Anxiety 

  1. "I am calm, centered, and in control of my thoughts and emotions."

  2. "I trust in my ability to overcome challenges and face uncertainty with courage."

  3. "I am worthy of peace and relaxation, and I deserve to prioritize my mental well-being."

  4. "I release all tension and fear from my mind and body, allowing tranquility to flow through me."

  5. "I am safe and secure in this present moment, and I trust in the journey ahead."

Additional Resources

**If you’re interested in expanding your knowledge on anxiety and how to support someone with anxiety, check out these books below:

  1. "Dare: The New Way to End Anxiety and Stop Panic Attacks Fast" by Barry McDonagh

  2. "Anxiety: Panicking about Panic: A powerful, self-help guide for those suffering from an Anxiety or Panic Disorder" by Joshua Fletcher

  3. "The Mindfulness Workbook for Anxiety: The 8-Week Solution to Help You Manage Anxiety, Worry, and Stress" by Tanya J. Peterson MS NCC

  4. "My Age of Anxiety: Fear, Hope, Dread, and the Search for Peace of Mind" by Scott Stossel

  5. "Loving Someone with Anxiety: Understanding and Helping Your Partner" by Kate N. Thieda MS LPCA NCC

  6. Anxious Attachment Recovery: Go From Being Clingy to Confident & Secure In Your Relationships (Break Free and Recover from Unhealthy Relationships By Linda Hill

  7. Overcome Overthinking and Anxiety in Your Relationship: A Practical Guide to Improve Communication, Solve Conflicts, and Build a Healthy Marriage By Robert J Charles

  8. Anxiety in Relationship: Free Yourself From Anxiety and Fears, Stop Suffering and Enjoy Your Love Relationship With Your Partner by Patricia Peterman

  9. Master Your Emotions: A Practical Guide to Overcome Negativity and Better Manage Your Feelings by Thibaut Meurisse 

  10.  Unwinding Anxiety: New Science Shows How to Break the Cycles of Worry and Fear to Heal Your Mind by Judson Brewer

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Is This Anxiety or Trauma? Anxious Behaviors vs. Trauma Responses

By Melody Wright, LMFT

When talking about mental health with others, you might notice that some of the signs and symptoms of Anxiety and Trauma may sound very familiar despite stemming from different events or diagnoses. For individuals wanting to learn more about their own mental health, or experiencing symptoms that may be related to anxiety or trauma, it can be very helpful to understand where their current symptoms stem from. This can help us seek and identify resources that will help us address our symptoms, as well as learn new ways to regulate ourselves when we feel overwhelmed or on edge. 

 
 

What is Trauma?

The American Psychological Association defines trauma as an “emotional response to a terrible event” such as abuse, community violence, or experiencing significant injury or loss. The symptoms we exhibit after experiencing trauma are directly related to events that happened in our past that did not make us feel safe or put us directly in the middle of unsafe situations. Some of the symptoms that people exhibit after experiencing trauma can include fatigue, feeling sad, and hopeless, experiencing mood swings, and withdrawing from others. Some symptoms can be more severe and can have long-term impacts on an individual, including experiencing consistent flashbacks to a traumatic event, developing panic attacks, sleep problems, or anxiety (also known as Generalized Anxiety Disorder). 

What is Anxiety?

Anxiety can be described as consistent and intense worrying over everyday situations, usually situations that have not yet happened yet. Anxiety sends a message to our brain that we need to do more to prepare for a possible, or upcoming, future event. Some of the physical symptoms that someone can experience when feeling anxious include a fast heart rate, sweating, and rapid breathing. While the causes of anxiety can vary, many people experience anxiety as a result of going through traumatic childhoods or events. 

 
 

What Do Anxious Behaviors Look Like?

While anxious behaviors can serve a purpose when they function as part of our body’s defense mechanisms (fight, flight, freeze, etc.), they can create an issue when they occur consistently and at the wrong times. Anxious behaviors can include the following:

  • Ongoing feelings of nervousness, restlessness, or feeling “on-edge”

  • Feeling irritable

  • Experiencing headaches, stomach pains, or other unexplained pains

  • Difficulty concentrating or falling/staying asleep

What Do Trauma Responses Look Like?

Traumatic responses are your body’s reaction to trauma. They can include the following:

  • Inability to focus or make decisions

  • The need to feel guarded or alert at all times

  • Flashbacks or constant thoughts of a previous traumatic event

  • Being easily startled in settings or situations that do not require you to be on high alert

 
 

As you can see from the descriptions and symptoms above, traumatic responses and anxious behaviors can feel similar in the body. The difference between a trauma response and an anxious behavior is where the symptoms are stemming from. Are the symptoms stemming from past events that your body identified as traumatic? Or are they stemming from concerns about future events or events that have not yet taken place (anxiety)? It is also important to know that trauma and anxiety may be connected for some individuals; One can develop anxious behaviors after experiencing traumatic events. 

What Can I Do?

Whether you experience anxious behaviors or trauma responses, it can feel overwhelming to see the impact they can create in our bodies. Know that you are not alone in feeling this way; 1 in 5 people experience anxiety in their lifetime, and 50-60% of people experience at least 1 traumatic event in their lives. Steps toward healing the body can be taken by learning how to regulate ourselves when we start to feel nervous, anxious, fearful, or on edge.

If you find yourself needing support to learn new skills to help you regulate, help address past trauma, or you’re interested in learning more strategies to combat your anxious thoughts, we encourage you to book a phone consultation today at Life by Design. Life by Design offers therapeutic services with qualified professionals that can give you the tools you need to help address your traumatic responses and anxious behaviors. Book a phone consultation here today for more information and to get you connected to additional support.